This picture is as lovely as it gets. Two living souls agreeing to be together for ever till death do them part irrespective of circumstance. But wait, there is something else.
You always have to ask if marriage is for you, before you move with the general conception of people and ruin your peace and most sadly the peace of another person.
Many people on this planet will never get married and trust me, 50% will be by choice.
Marriage in its self in society is marked by the days after the grand ceremony of the "wedding", but trust me , there are different marriages in other terms.
Many have wonderful courtships and "partnering" of which they stuck to the same rules as the post wedding requirements, but once the words "till death do you part" comes along, their soul begins to hinge, and they feel their individualism, personal identity is being erased.
People who have spent time building themselves on their terms as independent self made personalities now have to share all they have. Their bed, their privacy, their inner desires and their most vulnerable moments.
As "partners" they seem to have the freedom to keep some matters inside and have the sanity to be good to themselves and each other, but why not as a married couple.
We have seen people as partners for 10 years and the moment they have a wedding marking the beginning of marriage, they divorce in two years. Why ?
The chocking effect. Couples should learn to have their own "me" time. Trust me, its important .
Christian folk will also come with rules, but understand that the human body has a language. Because your body is transmitting sexually deprived signals is not a notification for getting married and ruining lives when you're not compatible on many grounds.
Your sole reason for getting married should be your eagerness to give the love you have or sharing your love with someone, not take take take and take.
If a giver meets a giver, oh we have a bliss, giver meets a taker, it becomes a marriage of compromise versus taken for granted, taker meets taker, we have dangerous situation and divorce is coming soon to a theater near you.
For givers hooking up with takers, some time soon the giver will have nothing to give because the taker is not paying back. Then you have sad stories of how unbearable the marriage is or soon to be "was".
The giver will say "10 years and i realise i was not happy" , while the taker say "i don't know what i did wrong, don't know why she/he is leaving me"
Love yourself, and take time to know yourself if marriage is for you or not.
Understand that until you meet someone you cant imagine your life without, don't bother.
Stay blessed
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